Day 13 Heart Homework : What village are we building for our children?
(I think this is a heavy post so please read it slowly with contemplation) Over and over again I hear, it takes a village to raise children. My question is, “Do we as parents accept the villagers?” Seems like an unfair question doesn’t it? Well no one ever said It takes a village to raise […]
Day 15 Heart Homework: A little poem I made for helping children have a good boundary for play.
Day 16 Heart Homework: On the topic of modesty.
Modesty/ Haya culture … As a parent of an adolescent age group, I am learning very quickly that Haya / modesty conversations for our household have gone from just clothes, tv and music to use of appropriate language and choice of online spaces they share or come across. The books they read, the jokes they […]
Day 14 Heart Homework: Lessons .. they labeled me wrong.
I don’t remember how many months back I called him “useless”. I know that on that particular day I was upset with him. I was tired, irritated and the children were helping with house work, he half heartedly did something and went back to his video game or tv or book . The girls complained […]
Day 17 Heart Homework: Life is a bunch of experiences and one take scenes.
Often people are asked, “ Will you do it all over again?” I have always found this question odd . My first response is no two experiences are the same. Why do I say that? The process might be same but the experience cannot be. Emotions, times of the day, seasons, company you have and […]
Being Aired on Qatar FM 107 Urdu Radio Qatar
Yesterday I had the honor of being aired as a guest to talk about my thoughts and views on different topics, on a radio program aired in Qatar. JazakAllah khair to the women folk who thought of me, suggested my name and support my work. I hope this almost 30 minute interview would be of […]
Pain is not without purpose.
https://irambintsafia.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/03/14.mp4 وَإِن يَمْسَسْكَ ٱللَّهُ بِضُرٍّ فَلَا كَاشِفَ لَهُۥٓ إِلَّا هُوَ وَإِن يُرِدْكَ بِخَيْرٍ فَلَا رَآدَّ لِفَضْلِهِۦ يُصِيبُ بِهِۦ مَن يَشَآءُ مِنْ عِبَادِهِۦ وَهُوَ ٱلْغَفُورُ ٱلرَّحِيمُ (١٠٧) ١٠-يونس Chapter 10 : Yunus, Verse: 107 and ‘If Allah touches you with harm, none can undo it except Him. And if He intends good for you, none can […]
Make your Ibadah wifi strong.
I was trying to upload a file and the wifi wasn’t working in that particular part of the house so naturally I take the phone and try to move around to see where the signals would work best. This action has become a natural occurring multiple times in a week or month or year, to […]
What a dim lit room taught me
I had three children in the bed ,laying between my husband and myself. Wrestling with their father, making funny noises and loving memories. Listening to their laughter I lay in ease.The children had an unsaid pact with me, they would never involve me in this play, meaning they would let me sleep or pretend to […]
What’s in a name? The ugly age of slurs and slang.
وَعَلَّمَ ءَادَمَ ٱلْأَسْمَآءَ كُلَّهَا ثُمَّ عَرَضَهُمْ عَلَى ٱلْمَلَـٰٓئِكَةِ فَقَالَ أَنۢبِـُٔونِى بِأَسْمَآءِ هَـٰٓؤُلَآءِ إِن كُنتُمْ صَـٰدِقِينَ (2:31) And He taught Adam the names – all of them. Then He showed them to the angels and said, “Inform Me of the names of these, if you are truthful.” When you read the Tafseer of the above […]