Day 10 Heart Homework: Parenting is Messy.

I have said this before and I will say this again Parenting is messy Humans are fussy Working around the clock Life zooming tik tok tik tok So much to do, so much to say but everyone is so opinionated that way Why did you …? How come ? Why not? what?what?what …….? My head […]

Day 11 Heart Homework: Keep moving…

You know it’s funny I am placing myself a a parent coach because 4 years ago I was just anti producing babies. I used to say , why are we so gung ho on bringing children into the world? We can’t take care of ourselves let alone bring in innocent lives and then absolutely fail […]

Day 12 Heart Homework : Always between I am sorry and I love you

Why are my I love you’s less than my I am sorry’s….. I wonder? As a daughter, as a wife, as a parent as a sister .. as far as I can remember I have always heard myself say “sorry” more. The loved ones around me have been kind, generous and forgiving honestly. But why […]

Day 13 Heart Homework : What village are we building for our children?

(I think this is a heavy post so please read it slowly with contemplation) Over and over again I hear, it takes a village to raise children. My question is, “Do we as parents accept the villagers?” Seems like an unfair question doesn’t it? Well no one ever said It takes a village to raise […]

Day 16 Heart Homework: On the topic of modesty.

Modesty/ Haya culture … As a parent of an adolescent age group, I am learning very quickly that Haya / modesty conversations for our household have gone from just clothes, tv and music to use of appropriate language and choice of online spaces they share or come across. The books they read, the jokes they […]

Day 14 Heart Homework: Lessons .. they labeled me wrong.

I don’t remember how many months back I called him “useless”. I know that on that particular day I was upset with him. I was tired, irritated and the children were helping with house work, he half heartedly did something and went back to his video game or tv or book . The girls complained […]

Day 17 Heart Homework: Life is a bunch of experiences and one take scenes.

Often people are asked, “ Will you do it all over again?” I have always found this question odd . My first response is no two experiences are the same. Why do I say that? The process might be same but the experience cannot be. Emotions, times of the day, seasons, company you have and […]

Being Aired on Qatar FM 107 Urdu Radio Qatar

Yesterday I had the honor of being aired as a guest to talk about my thoughts and views on different topics, on a radio program aired in Qatar. JazakAllah khair to the women folk who thought of me, suggested my name and support my work. I hope this almost 30 minute interview would be of […]

Pain is not without purpose.

https://irambintsafia.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/03/14.mp4 وَإِن يَمْسَسْكَ ٱللَّهُ بِضُرٍّ فَلَا كَاشِفَ لَهُۥٓ إِلَّا هُوَ وَإِن يُرِدْكَ بِخَيْرٍ فَلَا رَآدَّ لِفَضْلِهِۦ يُصِيبُ بِهِۦ مَن يَشَآءُ مِنْ عِبَادِهِۦ وَهُوَ ٱلْغَفُورُ ٱلرَّحِيمُ (١٠٧) ١٠-يونس Chapter 10 : Yunus, Verse: 107 and ‘If Allah touches you with harm, none can undo it except Him. And if He intends good for you, none can […]